Choices, Choices, All Around…
I think the most important thing I have learned so far in life is that I have choices. Not optional, “maybe I want to do this or that” choices, but mandatory choices.
Making no choice at all is still a choice.
Being able to choose means that I have to take responsibility for my life… both the good and the bad. Responsibility means that, although I might have messed up some things, I have the power to change them. Conversely, I can give myself full credit for creating the things I love about my life.
The biggest choice I have to make in every second of every minute of every hour of every day is what thoughts to think. I have learned that the thoughts I think control my emotions and how I feel. How I feel creates my life and experiences around me.
Let me give you an example. Let’s say a friend says something critical to me. There are several ways I can think and feel about it. I can assume that he doesn’t love me and intended to hurt me (yuck). Or I can assume he meant well and had my best interest at heart (feels better). Which view benefits me more?
Or let’s say I get a flat tire on the way to work. I can think about how unlucky I am and how everything bad always happens to me (yuck). Or I can imagine that maybe the flat tire prevented me from getting in a wreck and it is actually a blessing (feels better). Or you can declare that you got all of the “bad stuff” out of the way for today and that the rest of the day will be smooth sailing (also feels good).
So here is your challenge: Make a conscious decision to think about the choices you make, both big and small. Choose your thoughts wisely and always select the interpretation that serves you best. As an experiment, watch and see if your life improves (I’m betting it will).
Please let me know how your experiment goes or any other comments you may have!