When I was young, I saw a lot of women doing unsavory things. They cried to get sympathy. They acted dumb so wouldn’t hurt a man’s ego. They were sickeningly sweet and bubbly, even when they didn’t mean it. They withheld sex in an attempt to control their partners. They would go into fits of hysteria and fly off the handle for the smallest little things.
I had associated a lot of things I didn’t like with being a women or worse yet… “girly”.
The women I saw in the world seemed weak and manipulative… two qualities I didn’t want to be.
Looking back, I now know that your beliefs color your experiences and draw more of the same to you. I’m sure my fear and resistance to what I observed brought more examples into my awareness.
It took me a long time to deprogram those beliefs and accept my femininity. Once I discovered that my femininity could be my greatest ally, a whole new world opened up for me. I realized that women can be softly powerful, magnificently strong in ways that men can’t, and authentically emotional in a beautiful way. A woman who is in integrity with her soul is an amazingly stunning creature.
I used to hate the color pink. I’d avoid it at all costs. I still don’t dig flowers, hearts, and unicorns (with the exception of fresh cut flowers)… but now I can wear pink with pride as a symbol that I have stepped into my power as a woman. Pink high heels are even better!
What do you consider to be feminine? Is there such a thing as “too much”? I’m curious what you think!